I was at the park and a mom I hardly know asked me what I was having this time. I replied "A boy" and she asked me "Are you happy?". Okay, is it just me, or is that completely weird/odd to ask a near-complete stranger?
For some reason us moms of boys get sympathetic looks when we say we have all boys - or people feel sorry for us and ask us if/when we'll be trying for a girl. I can only speak for myself when I say, yes, I was a little surprised when I found out we were having another boy. And yes, I'm thinking in a few years we MIGHT try for another. But if we do, I don't want to go into it thinking "it's got to be a girl!". I know there are wonderful aspects to having girls - the cute clothes, the sweet/pretty/cute princessy stuff, the close mother-daughter bond, etc. I'd be really jealous if I couldn't have that in my life.
But folks, I have no control over this stuff. :) It's really up to biology. So therefore, I have chosen to be happy about being a mom to potentially all boys. They are fun! So they don't wear pink. I don't wear pink very often. :) I know they love their mamas and dadas just as much as little girls do. And frankly, it's quite an honor and privilege to raise a good man in this world - I need my sons to find kind women some day.
I guess my rant is all about remembering that life is really about Fate. I've thrown my hands up in the air countless times and figured the chips will fall as they may. Inevitably, what I thought SHOULD happen in my life hasn't happened - in fact, something different has -- and those are the places where and the people with whom I'm most happiest. I wouldn't change my life for an instant. So when we get pregnant we are just throwing our hands up in the air and seeing what will happen. Sometimes some unexpected things do happen but if we roll with the punches, we find they are the best things ever. I am truly excited to meet this new PERSON who is growing inside of me - the little boy who is now choosing to kick me at bedtime. He's real, he's alive and he's growing. I can't wait for July to get here!!
1 comment:
Ohhhh ... now I get it!! I've been behind on blog-reading recently and Ali's email tipped me off! Very bizarre question from a stranger. Boys are SO much fun! I think it'd be fun to have both at some point, but if that doesn't happen I'm more than happy to be the mom of boys. We are very excited about a baby brother on the way and I know you guys are too!
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